Sunday, March 13, 2011

Copy / Paste

If you, like me, grew up elsewhere it will drive you insane when you see how some ("some' not all!) of the people here want to be rewarded for just being nationals.  They want certificates without getting an education, and they will take any shortcuts to get what they want. They cheat in exams and pay teachers to give them better grades.  They use hidden bluetooth headsets to listen to the answers from their partners in crime hiding in the corridor outside the exam rooms. All their assignments and thesis are copy /pasted from the internet.  Copy/paste is their best friend in this whole world.

A colleague came to me last week for help.  Her sister is in university and she had to do a  paper entiltled  "Factors that Affect Consumer Taste in Different Parts of the World".  (btw, we did this in 'A' Level Economics). She was very upset because they were told by their professor that he wanted them to do their own research and express it in their own words.  "Haram!" she said "How could he expect them to do that?  Maskinah my sister, she's crying, she can't do it, he is so mean, so cruel!  Please help her!" 

So her sister copy/pasted someone else's work from the internet and sent it to me to condense it into 1500 words and diguise it to look like it was originally done by her.  I did it because I am too kind, I should have just said NO, let her use her brains and write her own paper. Let her EARN her degree/diploma or whatever it was.  But I was sure she would not understand. She would think I am jealous of the fact that she's a national, sailing her way through university without doing any actual work or learning. She probably thinks that all of us want certificates without the education to back it up. After all these years, I know these characters well, so to avoid drama, I just rewrote it to make it look like "her own" and sent it back to her. It took me all of 25 minutes.  I wonder what grade I got?  I hope it was an "A"! 
I can see her a few years from now, clueless, crying again at the unfairness of it all, because they did not promote her after 3 months of mediocrity in her chosen field.

That's the UAE, baby!

Btw, I am so thankful to Allah for allowing my parents to provide me the education that they did. 

Thursday, March 3, 2011

There Are Still Some Men

Just the other day, I was waiting in the car for my son to come out of the shop.  (I can do that now that he's old enough. Alhamdulillah)


Anyway, as I was sitting there I glanced across at the little play area they have outside the Co-op.  They have those noisy, nursery rhyme playing, mechanical rocking horses that toddlers can't seem to get enough of.  I saw a man leaning against the wall carrying a little baby.  He was totally absorbed! He had eyes only for the baby and my heart was suddenly flooded with emotion as he kissed the baby so very tenderly that his eyes closed, and then opening his eyes, he smiled at the baby with so much love. My eyes filled with tears.


Thank you Allah (Subhaanahu wa Ta'ala) for reminding me that there are still some men who know how to love their children. 



Saturday, February 26, 2011

2011 is Full of Surprises

This year has started off like a huge sack of unknown things where you don't know what you're going to pull out every time you reach into it.  That guy in Tunis who immolated himself in the town square sure as h*** had no idea that his life-ending action would oust the president of his nation.  When that Egyptian guy decided to call for a demonstration in Tahrir Square via Facebook, he had no inkling that it would change the history of his country and determine a new future for the next generations.  And now Libya!  Life's like that, you never know what will happen next.


Allah Subhaanahu wa Ta'ala says in Surah Luqman Verse 34:

إِنَّ اللَّهَ عِنْدَهُ عِلْمُ السَّاعَةِ وَيُنَزِّلُ الْغَيْثَ وَيَعْلَمُ مَا فِي الْأَرْحَامِ وَمَا تَدْرِي نَفْسٌ مَاذَا تَكْسِبُ غَدًا وَمَا تَدْرِي نَفْسٌ بِأَيِّ أَرْضٍ تَمُوتُ إِنَّ اللَّهَ عَلِيمٌ خَبِيرٌ

Surely Allah is He with Whom is the knowledge of the hour, and He sends down the rain and He knows what is in the wombs; and no one knows what he shall earn on the morrow; and no one knows in what land he shall die; surely Allah is Knowing, Aware.

May Allah strengthen our faith to face whatever comes to us with patience and correctness, amin.

Thursday, February 10, 2011

Who Cares?

An infamous tyrannical leader criticised his fellow tyrant when his population revolted against the widespread hunger and food shortages in his country.  He said: "Mjinga yule! That idiot!  He kept his people too hungry!  I told him many times,  feed them just enough, but not too much.  They must  always be kept preoccupied with looking for the next piece of bread to organize and revolt!". An infamous  tyrant actually said that ( a friend of his uncle's cousin's daughter's son told my friend's cousin's neighbour). 

So it turns out, there's a fine and delicate balance expertly maintained by well experienced tyrants in power.  They graciously give the people "just enough" to have a glimmer of hope for a better day,  keeping them just passive enough.  That's how they keep progress down in poverty stricken countries.  What about in places where there is plenty to eat and folks are not scratching the earth for the next meal?  What about in places that are earthquake free, tornado and natural disaster free? People in these places are free to develop and grow their minds, now that their bodies are well fed, but they don't?  Why? What are we preoccupied with so that we don't think to better our lives?  Scroll down for the answer:







They preoccupy our minds with utterly, useless, brain cell destroying, mindless trivia.  They bombard us with this junk on a second to second basis through the thousands of useless tv channels (radio and other media channels are also guilty).

We are too busy with what mindless comment Haifa Wehbe made on some lame talk show to actually nurture our own and our children's minds with education and religion, and therefore better ourselves.  Who is being thrown out this week in Star Academy? What did Brangelina wear to the Oscars?  Is Lindsay Lohan back in rehab?  Is that a baby bump Beyonce is trying to hide?  Did Jay Z have a nose job?

Who cares?  Who cares? Who cares? Apparently a lot of people do!  Enough to generate billions of advertisement dollars and enough to keep people busy trying to play catch up with people we will never meet.  It's all about the money.  Advertisements to keep us in the shopping malls buying things they so cleverly convince us that we need.

We are told what is the most desirable car, phone, woman, man, house, toys, and everything else so that we are so busy trying to acquire those things that we never open our eyes to see that we are living lives entirely empty of substance,  quality and spiritual growth and depth. We are so busy and so blinded by trivial pursuits that we cannot see what is not right in our own societies and indeed in our own homes.  We have no time for character building. 

The good news is this tactic apparently did not work to keep the Egyptians down because to my knowledge, Egyptian tv is mega saturated with trivia with hardly a youth oriented educational channel in sight.  So the stomachs and the minds of everyone were hungry.  Yet the Egyptian youth still did not allow the wool to continue to be pulled over their eyes. There's hope yet.  *Climbs off a very high horse*

Tuesday, February 1, 2011

Cradle Me

Sometimes we go through such pain and uncertainty that we feel that our hearts cannot take it anymore, that they will literally burst out of our chests from the pain, the pure injustice caused to us by our fellow beings. You want to cry your eyes out and I often do.  We all go through this, every single one of us. I would like to share with you  that, when I go through such times, I take all those tears, fears and injustices  to Allah and let the tears flow like a river. I just cry with my heart and eyes, (not with a loud voice):

Oh Allah, since you are my Master, and I am your slave,
Since You are My Lord, and I am your servant,
Since You are My Creator, and I am your Creation,
Since You are the Originator of every single thing that exists,
And only You have complete power over all those things,
Since You are Merciful, and I am in need of Your Mercy,
Since You are the Forgiver, and I am forever  in need of Your Forgiveness,
Since You are The Protector, and I am vulnerable,
Please help me,
If I don't come to You, then to whom will I go?
If I don't cry to You, then to whom will I cry?
If I don't hope from You, then from whom will I hope?
If I don't have Your Love then what do I have?
Please My Lord, cradle my heart and soul like a mother cradles her child,
and soothe them,
Cover me with you Infinite Mercy, ease for me this pain and bring me to a better day,
Ameen, ameen, ameen.


Saturday, January 29, 2011

Thank You All!

I just want to thank you people who have been reading this blog and my two followers (praying for you, Um Q).  Thanks everyone!

I've added an RSS feed to the top right hand corner of my page for those of you who want to be updated on any new posts or comments. You can receive updates on your mobile phone.  All you have to do is click on the orange button labelled "Subscribe to The Same as it Never Was". Then pick your reader of choice, e.g., myYahoo, Google Reader, Atom, etc.  You can schedule your RSS reader to check for updates every 12 hours,  daily or whatever. It's very handy because I sometimes find a site I like and I want to go back and read more but unless I bookmark it, I may not find it again.  So RSS comes in and save the day. I've set my RSS reader to  check sites I'm subscribed to daily for new content and notify me.


You can read more about RSS feeds here where you'll find a much better explanation than mine.

Thursday, January 27, 2011

Keeping up with the Idiots!

 Show offs are just idiots trying to look interesting.  Even worse, they are trying to look interesting to people who either (a) don't give a damn!! or (b) are idiots themselves.

If you have to borrow a whole years salary to pay for that expensive holiday so you can bore your friends to tears with the 700+ pictures of you sitting in the airport, getting on the plane, stepping into the taxi, stepping out of the taxi, entering the hotel room, trying out the bed, brushing your teeth, changing into your pyjamas, etc., then you should probably skip vacation this year.  Staying home this year will be excellent not only for your pocket, but for our poor eyes.  It's better all round for the sanity of your fellow human beings!

If you haven't been able to pay your three maids their salaries for the past 6 months then you have to rethink your lifestyle, How about teaching your older kids how to use the washing machine, the iron and the vacuum?  Then you can let one of those poor, overworked girls go.  What's that you say?  Manual work is below you?  If our own Prophet Muhammed (SalAllahu alayhi wasallam) could wash and mend his own clothes, sweep his own floors and  prepare his own food, who are you to look down on that?

If you're going to be paying for your luxury car at 4% interest for the next 6 years, then you should have gone for that less expensive model, you'd have been done by now. 
What's that? As if!! You'll be damned if you're going to buy a cheaper car than your neighbour and you sure as heck are not going to drive that same old car for 6 whole years.  Next year, you'll sell it off and let someone else finish paying for it.  Then you'll take another huge loan to buy the latest luxury car you cannot afford. After all, you would rather go to jail than be seen in a 3 year old car. On your release, you can always tell everyone you were on a long vacation in the South of France.

You and your wife go to Dragon Mart (China Mall) because you can get shiny things at a reasonable price.  At Dragon Mart, you can buy that gigantic chandelier made with "Xhmalooski" crystals (the Chinese cousins of the Swarovskis) . People will "ooh!" and "aah!" when they see it glittering above your shiny furniture which you purchased with one of your many bank loans. And they will think you are millionares since only millionares can afford chandeliers.  Your wife instructs you, "If anyone asks you where we bought it, let's tell them "Dubai Mall"".

What's wrong with just saying "China Mall"??  Hey! Don't you know that many of those shiny things in Dubai Mall are also made in China???  Oh I see!  Bargains are for poor people. God forbid you should look like a sensible shopper who looks for bargains.

Must....look......rich......or...die...trying...must......NOT......look......poor.

We would all be so much happier if we realised that ultimately, in front of Allah, it's not what we HAVE,  it's what we ARE that really matters.