There are friends, there are enemies, and then there are frenemies.
Frenemy: A person who pretends to be a friend, whilst all the time demeaning you and trying to destroy or claim for themselves your self esteem, your reputation, your style, your achievements and anything good you may have.
Alhamdulillah, I recently got rid of one. I'll just give you a small example of the type of things she did. If I bought a pair of shoes, she would say "Are those from Aldo? I saw them but meh!". Next time I see her she's bought the exact, same shoes and she would make it a point to inform me smugly "I have those shoes". And she did this also with perfumes, mobile phones, handbags and anything I had. Wtf!! I guess she didn't like them enough until she saw them with me!
She told everyone that she and I are exactly the same. NOOOOOOT!!
I am not an insecure, impolite and selfish human. She was jealous of my friends and would insist on meeting them. I introduced her to my lovely friend "H" who owns a tailoring shop. She had H's tailor make a few dresses for her, but when H's father was in hospital, she didn't even call H to ask about her father. When he passed away (Allah rest his soul), she didn't call H to give her condolences. When she wanted more clothes from H's partner about a month later, she feigned embarassment: "I'm ashamed I didn't give her condolences on her father's death". I told her "Well, now's you chance". Amazingly and disappointingly she still didn't do it even as she bought a pileful of Moroccan jalabiyyahs at an amazing price from H's partner. The words "thank you" did not even pass from her lips. Later on she told me that she just "didn't feel like it". She wanted to show me that my friend H meant nothing to her solely because she knew how much I love H.
Why did I tolerate her for so long? Because I am patient and I pick my fights carefully. So I let all her nasty little comments and deeds go, only because I felt that arguing with a fool makes me a fool too. Sometimes people mistake patience for weakness.
I was waiting for a chance to get her out of my life for a very long time but it was difficult because we are married to brothers. Thankfully, she moved house further away and she made it easy for me to make a full break (I knew she inevitably would) by picking a senseless fight on a day when I had absolutely no patience for her nonsense.
She called me to complain and accuse me and the other brother's wife of being jealous of her new house (really??). When I told her I prefer to be far from her and I don't want her calling me to gossip about other people, she went berserk, insulted me and said that I was selfish, did not support her in her vendettas against other friends and I am envious of her and everything she has. So I said, "Oh well! If I'm all those things then what do you want with me anyway?"
It went back and forth for a while. Oh God! How I hate bad drama! The call ended with a hint of desperation on her part. She reckoned we have to stick together because everyone was jealous of our friendship (really???) and I shouldn't let them "win" by breaking it up. It was starting to sound creepy and I knew then that she was out of her mind! Soon after that she tried to orchestrate a group effort in her campaign to malign me via of all things, Facebook. (Damn you Mark Zuckenberg!!) But as of now, the little group seems to have disintegrated. They were probably too jealous of her "beauty and riches". Hehehe! You have to laugh at the dramatic lunacy of it all!
Frenemy: A person who pretends to be a friend, whilst all the time demeaning you and trying to destroy or claim for themselves your self esteem, your reputation, your style, your achievements and anything good you may have.
Alhamdulillah, I recently got rid of one. I'll just give you a small example of the type of things she did. If I bought a pair of shoes, she would say "Are those from Aldo? I saw them but meh!". Next time I see her she's bought the exact, same shoes and she would make it a point to inform me smugly "I have those shoes". And she did this also with perfumes, mobile phones, handbags and anything I had. Wtf!! I guess she didn't like them enough until she saw them with me!
She told everyone that she and I are exactly the same. NOOOOOOT!!
I am not an insecure, impolite and selfish human. She was jealous of my friends and would insist on meeting them. I introduced her to my lovely friend "H" who owns a tailoring shop. She had H's tailor make a few dresses for her, but when H's father was in hospital, she didn't even call H to ask about her father. When he passed away (Allah rest his soul), she didn't call H to give her condolences. When she wanted more clothes from H's partner about a month later, she feigned embarassment: "I'm ashamed I didn't give her condolences on her father's death". I told her "Well, now's you chance". Amazingly and disappointingly she still didn't do it even as she bought a pileful of Moroccan jalabiyyahs at an amazing price from H's partner. The words "thank you" did not even pass from her lips. Later on she told me that she just "didn't feel like it". She wanted to show me that my friend H meant nothing to her solely because she knew how much I love H.
Why did I tolerate her for so long? Because I am patient and I pick my fights carefully. So I let all her nasty little comments and deeds go, only because I felt that arguing with a fool makes me a fool too. Sometimes people mistake patience for weakness.
I was waiting for a chance to get her out of my life for a very long time but it was difficult because we are married to brothers. Thankfully, she moved house further away and she made it easy for me to make a full break (I knew she inevitably would) by picking a senseless fight on a day when I had absolutely no patience for her nonsense.
She called me to complain and accuse me and the other brother's wife of being jealous of her new house (really??). When I told her I prefer to be far from her and I don't want her calling me to gossip about other people, she went berserk, insulted me and said that I was selfish, did not support her in her vendettas against other friends and I am envious of her and everything she has. So I said, "Oh well! If I'm all those things then what do you want with me anyway?"
It went back and forth for a while. Oh God! How I hate bad drama! The call ended with a hint of desperation on her part. She reckoned we have to stick together because everyone was jealous of our friendship (really???) and I shouldn't let them "win" by breaking it up. It was starting to sound creepy and I knew then that she was out of her mind! Soon after that she tried to orchestrate a group effort in her campaign to malign me via of all things, Facebook. (Damn you Mark Zuckenberg!!) But as of now, the little group seems to have disintegrated. They were probably too jealous of her "beauty and riches". Hehehe! You have to laugh at the dramatic lunacy of it all!
She sounds like a freaky stalker person :|
ReplyDeleteI know!!! She even tried to copy the way I talk! She was hating me and trying to be like me all at once. Scary!
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